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Coping-Mentally

How are you coping? 

The big question people are afraid to ask these days. With all the pressures of life and what is going on in the world this is the question I ask most. Often, you will fine individuals express signs of shame, anxiety, frustration and believe it or not guilt. Some people are suffering from the guilt that they are not physically or financially affected as much as other’s and in some cases nothing significant at all but the negative environment is so heavy and energy is at an all-time low that mentally these individuals too are not coping well either. 

We have seen it many times, where celebrities and wealthy people take their own lives. One would think that they have their lives all together but mentally something has triggered a negative energy that they were unable to deal with and unfortunate they are no longer here with us. These issues are all understandable, mental health issues can impact someone in so many ways. It unbelievable the thoughts that goes through their minds and the actions displayed because of this. Not everyone’s situation is created equal, not everyone is strong enough to take themselves out of that head space so we must respect others for where they are at the time of their current situation. 

Please before you jump to conclusions, one has to ask yourself is that person doing through something, if it’s you that going through something than access the situation even If you take a piece of paper to make a list of the negatives and positives. Ask yourself what I can do to make me feel better. What can I do to make my situation better and if your in a position to do so what can you do to make others feel better? 

A little kindness goes a long way. 

Things I do to cop: 

• Speak to people who motive you, who empower you and take you through to the next day. Don’t worry about the next week, next month you just need to make it to the next day and let god take care of the rest. 

• Don’t feeling guilty about your feelings you are human, and we were built this way 

• Create the environment I want to live I started by getting rid of the things that don’t bring me joy. Decluttering various spaces in my house and embracing the items that speaks to who I am and the energy I want to have. Late last year I started this journey. I won’t say I’m becoming a minimalist, but I have learned less is more. 

• Follow positive influencer pages anything from motivational quotes, speeches, videos, pictures that shows happiness, joy, love, peace, kindness. 

• Bible study this gives you a totally different perspective on life. Understanding why things and happening, how things are happenings and the guidelines of how to live with the support of others to help carry you through. 

• Listen to past sermons with the teaching of God’s word and life.

•  Prayer that intimidate moment to address all your feelings, concerns, burdens, give thanks and asking for things that your life requires. 

• Music to clear your head and give you energy.

• Work out to move your body and keep you healthy.

If you don’t need the help of coping and just want to help someone else, please check out www.hereforyoushop.com. Feel free to use promo code “Ladarnya” for 30% off your order and a portion of their proceeds are donated to support mental health and body positive movements. 

You can make a difference. 

 Thanks for Reading. Stay tuned for upcoming post. Lots of love Ladarnya

I Am A Brand Ambassador

Hello Frenz,

 In less then 24hrs of committing to a different frame of mind and taking a new approach to my blog, I got my first opportunity to be a brand ambassador for Hereforyoushop.com.

I know some of you may think this is nothing, but to me it is a sign of manifestation. The world is watching you, the work you put in is significant and a simple post can make a big impact, not only in your life but for someone else and the future of a brand.

I have been plus size all my life. I am a woman of color with features of multiple races. Life itself is hard. Some may struggle with past experiences and we are all living in this current environment where if it has not taken a physical toll on your life, mentally I can say in some way shape or form we are not all here.

There are so many attributes that makes you, you and so many factors that contribute to your life being the way it is. With that being said, I am more than happy to promote whether big or small brands such as
  

 A company that promotes mental health and body positive initiatives. You can check out their website  www.hereforyoushop.com for mental health Jewelry and clothing.

Believe in yourself button

 

It's Okay Soft T-Shirt

Best part is a portion of their proceeds are donated to body positive movements and mental heath organisations.  By supporting them you are supporting others and my support to you is to use the promo code “ladarnya”for 30 % off you order.

Cheers 🍷 to shopping to support a common good.

Thanks for Reading. Stay tuned for upcoming post. Lots of love Ladarnya

Rebirthing change to the blog

Hello Frenz,

It’s that time again. You know the one when you feel like you back but not so sure.

Well that's me. However, this time I’m doing things a little different this go around.

A few years ago I started this platform because I felt I had something to share and I did but as life happens your interest start to change, you mature and sometimes in order to accommodate that  shift you can easily get caught up and before you know it time creates  distance that you fall off and it becomes very difficult when is the right time to get back on the wagon or how to get back on the wagon. So here it is…….

THERE IS NO RIGHT TIME, JUST DO IT.

Wherever you are, whatever you are doing and no matter how you feel, sharing will alleviate you and surprise you all at the same time of how other people have experience the same scenario or are currently struggle with this same. So help me help you. 

•        I’m conscious that I need to share my experience
•        I’m committed to postings my feeling and experiences
•        I’m intentional because I want others to know that you are not alone
•        I’m purposeful to motivate you as I try to encourage myself

 

Thanks for Reading. Stay tuned for upcoming post. Lots of love Ladarnya.

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Thanks for Reading. Stay tuned for upcoming post.Lots of love Laddee

Forever blessed by gods grace

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Catching feeling

HLast week i worked my butt off, by Wednesday I was so tired I felt like I didn't have those few days off for the holiday but nevertheless I am grateful for my job.

Sunday I did not cook and it felt so good.  He didn't care to call and neither did I. I slept in and ate out. I ironed for the week and watched tv in sweet peace.

The week before I was interrogated as expected but this time he went a little too far.  From searching my room to asking 21 question about issues like he was an old grandpar. Questions that shouldn't even be an issue.  Truth is I am an will never be this heartless person he wants me to be. I am so much better than he will ever have the decency to see.

He didn't get answers I really wanted him to hear and this year I'm trying not to swear. What I really wanted to say is good bye my dear. You can't see me as your wife and it's about that time I start living yea its my year.

A new week starts and I still feel the same cant wait to get to that point where my emotional status change.  Oh yea he watches those too. You know when you guilty you think it's always about you.  Lol. It funny how guys think until it relates to them they just can't see.

Today I was told im a miserable happy in a funny way but with all these emotions what can I say.

My 2014 forecast

Hi Everyone, 

Hope you had a great Christmas and brought in what I look forward to being a great new year.

I know most of you have set resolution that won't make it past February but Im not sure if that's what im into.  I have set goals as I always do all to make me a better person, last year I was successful and hope to make it in 2014 too. To the disciplines congrats and keep up the good work but those who have failed better luck next time.

For those who have been following my blog sharing my pain and feast for the joy of a broken world I thank you and I have so much more to share.  Only this time you may not like it so much as my life moves on and most of you are stuck in the old days of sad relationships and hopeless futures all because you are afraid to take that step.

See what I failed to inform you is that I have always been independent, strong,loving, caring, confident, intelligent and striving to be the best at any thing I do so this go round I'm embracing me and the motto is "love me or let me go". How is your year forecast looking?.

Yes she

I made it through another weekend and had a great Saturday night,  looking forward to many more incredible days in this thing called life. It only gets better adjusting to knowing my ways. With god on my side there will be so many sunny days.

Maybe, my heart mind body and soul is focus on someone else a little more work will make him my spouse.  My ex boyfriend that's exactly what he is, don't even see this being a successful affair.

I look forward to taking on this thing called life and maybe one day soon ill be someone's proud wife. Things may not always go my way but I am thankful every day.

Work is work as usual what can I say today. I wished the cheater boyfriend a happy birthday.  Yea I know you're wondering whats going on but please remember I did nothing wrong.

I miss him. What more can I say, I miss that smile that use to lighten my day.

Oh well life goes on im looking forward to say yes there will be another day. 

Something old or is he new?

Something old or was he new. I borrowed him in my world of misty blue.

Friday night Saturday morning he appeared, my ex boyfriend with his cute little beard.  He held me close as if he never wanted to let go but that morning I wasn't sure if it was a dream or was it a ghost.

No it was him, yes he is real, the smell of his cologne said if he pop the question your answer is"I WILL". He was great . Now all I have to do is wait, to find out if there will be another date. Nevertheless, I enjoyed every moment of him and spent all that Saturday thinking I committed a sin.

Not a moment I'm extremely proud to say but with all the things going on in this world we can only live day to day.  I'm getting over myself one day at a time I keep telling myself everything will be fine.

Vacation is over and im back to work, really hits, I'm not just a girl with another blog,I was put here to shock the world.

Do something spontaneous who cares we only have one life to live.

SHE

Feeling Myself

So im finally up, out and back on my grind.  Im so proud of me you have no idea.

Just want to say thanks to my friends, family and love ones for the support and encouragement in a dark moment.

The last week was busy as ever, from flowers to balloons to a group of 8 drunk girl all in their feelings and having a ball.  Too bad what happened at the party stays at the party.  I must say it was good to just let go and have fun. 

Didn't get to take the pictures you were expecting but I think my face on this picture says it all.

So I'm trying to enjoy my last 2 days on vacation and prepare for the reality of going back to work Monday please pray for me I'm so not ready but very thankful i have a job to go to.

Late Nights and Early Mornings

Since things have changed so has my sleeping habits. Contagiously I am going to bed late and waking up really early in the mornings so I'm back to my usual spot as a couch potato. Tonight I'm watching the marathon of Will and Grace while cool breeze brushes across my feet, I cant help but have Christmas thoughts run through my mind and I absolutely love it.  

It is finally beginning to feel like fall. Unfortunately, Halloween isn't a big celebration around here and we don't get thanksgiving holidays so I can't wait to start smelling apples, pine, the newness of house items, warm candles, blankets,  hot chocolate, socks, eggnog ,ham, turkey, cakes and be able to watch a spree of hallmark movies. 

Christmas is very important to me as I am an only child and don't get to share that family experience.Thought this year I would get to have my dream holiday (whats wrong with a little reminuising)  waking up next to my boyfriend, have breakfast in bed, exchange of gifts and watch movies until family dinner but that looks very far from happening so my mom does a very good job to make this a very good time for me. i guess god knows best, I'm so thankful for her god bless her heart. 

To all you friends and family out there, grab a book; start planning christmas is closer than we think.

Is this normal???

Is it normal for a girl to feel like this?

I feel like Carrie Bradshaw from sex and the city when Mr.  Big left her to the church.  I have been in bed for the last 2 days. The more I sleep the more tired I feel.  I have no appetite and I just want to be alone. As long as I'm awake my mind goes into over drive and every thought is about him. 

I keep asking why or what happened that would make someone do such a thing to me and there is no real reason.  Not like this is the first time I've had a cheating boyfriend but I think because he was my friend first this makes it so hard, especially when he says he is happy with me and want to make this work but does nothing to assure me that is the truth.  I guess actions do speak louder than words.

I try talking about it so i can get it out my head, I try not to talk about it so I could stop rehashing memories in my head and nothing seems to work. For such a small place I wish I could pack up and skip town to make it all go away but we all know running away from our problems does not solve them. 

A big part of me want this to work and there is still the though i dont want to be the fool. Maybe an apology would do the trick. I don't even know.

I try not to talking about relationships on my blog so please forgive me if i sound like just another girl who had a bad relationship that is bitter and crying for help but what does one do to make it all go away?

"Get over it" is easier say than done.

When it rain it pours......

I meant that literally.

It started raining from Friday evening and all Saturday morning.  It thundered and it lighten, as I layed in bed listening to the soothing sound of water flowing over the rocks on the hill in the back of my room.

It sound so romantic, too bad I was alone and those who enjoyed that cuddling moment most of them woke up to floating stilettos and drifting furniture from minor flooding.

Got a few calls from friends and colleagues to say the storm did not go well with them which makes me even more thankful for the life god has blessed me with. So just remember when we sometimes have our hearts and minds focus on one thing life has ways of bringing us back to reality showing what is more important.

I miss my boyfriend and that cuddling moment but I'm thankful I didn't get flood out so what is your pouring moment?

Vacation! Day ♡2♡

It was errand day. You would think I be off to an early start but that sure didn't happen.

Went to bed late the night before slept late, woke up and went back to bed. Finally got up around midday to get my work started. I know most of you thinking that's so late but when you already know your day is going to be long you have to take advantage of the little time you got so I slept.

Got out did my banking, paid my vehicle insurance (yea you know that INCASE something happens policy). Did some other little things and got home around late evening.

I also wanted to start getting the stuff sorted for my friend and co worker's bday weekend retreat next week but this darn phone won't stop ringing with work calls. So there was a bitter sweet moment because all the stores were closed.  I know it's slow season but seriously why close for so long. The bakery close and the flower shop close. So that has to wait until next week Monday. Sorry to say small gathering are just as tiring as big functions the only difference is the quantity and cost because you still have to follow all the steps. So please look for party updates and another busy week on my homecation.

Cheers,
Ladee

Vacation!

Ohhhhh it feels great to be on holiday.  Not the type of holiday I was expecting but I am grateful. My vacation was suppose to start Monday but was called in to work so yesterday was my first day.

Recently, I've been having emotional stress from my use to be wonderful boyfriend but I'm trying to have a positive look at life in this situation and I hope it's works out so this little time off is much needed.

However, yesterday was great. Had an early morning start, cereal for breakfast, took my sugar Oreo to the vet, had a late lunch at the tiki hut , went to church which (was awesome to hear Rev Patricia Charles) and got home in time to watch Tamar and Vince. I have 2 more weeks to go so let's see what else is in store.

Now you tell me what would you do on a homecation?

What can I say

So I've had a long weekend.  Friday was our youth day holiday and the time off was great.  Thursday night I went to Grand Turk finish some work.  A friend and I went to karaoke at the White sands hotel,  stopped by "German" a night club and got home around 3am. 

Friday I spent the day helping my aunt with some programs for the church women's group anniversary. (I though i was never going to finish sorting and stapling). Friday evening went to a baby shower. Unfortunately,  it was so hot humid and boring i didn't take 1 picture. The colors were beautiful orange and Blue but the evening did not go well. 

Saturday morning I spent with my grandfather and  came back to Provo that afternoon.  Did a little grocery shopping and got dressed for dinner with my wonderful boyfriend we had dinner at "Salt" which was nice (I love spending time with him even when I'm mad). The menu isn't much but you have to try it.

And Sunday was late church service, got my hair straighten, my mom cooked  a small dinner and it was tv time.  My day was full of love from Maid in Manhattan,to The proposal than bride wars their was 27 dresses and a backup plan.

We have finally starting to feel some cool weather so cuddle in bed and before i knew it,  it was Monday

Breakfast at dinner :)))

I love breakfast. It doesn't matter what time of day it is, It doesn't matter what season it is I am always in the mood for breakfast. 

Tonight I made my version on an ihop Colorado omelet.  All you need is eggs, a little milk, onions, ham, sausage and steak or  stew beef (that had left over from Sunday) and your favorite cheese I used cheddar.  And here it is. Enjoy.